We all want to experience happiness. If we trace back why we want to achieve anything in life, it all comes back to the fact that we think it will make us happy.
However, some people never seem to be happy, no matter what they achieve. That is because they don’t realize that happiness is a choice.
We choose whether we will experience happiness based on what we focus on. Those who are unhappy focus their attention on everything that is wrong. People who are happy focus their attention on everything that is right. Happy people don’t have less setbacks or challenges, they just approach them differently.
What we focus on in any situation is a choice that we make. Understanding this concept is revolutionary, and unfortunately a lesson that many people don’t ever learn. Most people’s focus is controlled by others … not by themselves. It is controlled by mass media, the news networks, and those who want you to be part of their plan, not help you accomplish your goals and dreams.
If we want to be happier in life, and accomplish more, then ask yourself these three questions and make changes as needed:
1. Do you focus on what you have, or what is missing?
Those who focus on what they have tend to be happier with their situation and their life. Practice gratefulness. However, if you want to achieve more, then you have to spend some time focused on what is missing, because that drives you to accomplish more. The key is that it is a choice that you can make in any given situation.
If you are feeling down, focus on what you have. If you want the drive, focus on what is missing. You get to choose your focus in every minute of every day.
2. Do you focus on what you can control, or what you cannot control?
People who focus their attention on things they cannot control will always feel stressed and unhappy. The good news is that when we focus on what we can control, then we have the power to make things better. Also, we can control a lot more than we usually give ourselves credit for.
3. Do you focus on things that have happened in the past, present, or future?
The only time that focusing on the past serves you is if you are learning from mistakes made in the past or remembering happy moments. Take those great moments from the past and remember them. Don’t get focused on all the things that didn’t work out in the past. Just learn what lessons there are to be learned from those negative memories and move on.
The key to happiness is controlling what you focus on. It is completely within our control.
That is not saying that you can stay focused on the “right” things 100% of the time. We all get knocked off course by outside events. We lose focus. The important thing is to realize that when that happens, you have to control to bring your focus back where it needs to be. The faster you recognize that you are off-course and make corrections, the faster you will accomplish your goals!
The ability to choose is a gift. Don’t take it for granted.